July 2016 Newsletter

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July 2016 Newsletter

What’s on at Northern Beaches Counselling & Mediation

 

A Couple’s Journey

07/07/2016

 

When the Age Gap In a Relationship Is Too Big?

Jul 02, 2016 10:03 am

When Being Different Ages Is the Difference That Can Make the Difference Recently I was asked about my thoughts on the impact that a difference in age might have on the future success of a relationship. Let me scatter some thoughts here before I answer the question specifically. I have known of marriages that had […]

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Age and Marriage

Jun 22, 2016 10:09 am

An email I received recently went something like this: “I would like to know what you think about the challenges that … age poses to the institution of marriage.” I love this question as I believe age poses a whole set of different issues for couples though none any less surmountable than those presenting to […]

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Why Is My Husband Addicted To Sex With Other Women?

Jun 03, 2016 10:01 am

Some time ago I received an email from a woman questioning her husband’s continuing infidelity despite the fact that they have been married for more than twenty years. The simple question was why he would continue doing this? The answer of course is never quite as simple as the question as there may be a […]

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The Love Drug

May 25, 2016 10:05 am

We all know when we are “in love” that our common sense seems to fail us as all we think about is the subject of our love and the delight there will be next time we meet. Even just thinking about them can result in that flurry in our stomachs as if they were with […]

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Relationship Remedy

07/07/2016

 

What Is Marriage and Why Marry?

Jun 30, 2016 12:02 am
In this article I want to address some questions on what is marriage, why do we marry, and the role of extended families in marriage. Firstly let me define marriage. For me marriage is about two people committing themselves totally to one another. And I’ll add to this my personal opinion that this may refer […]
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To Give or Not to Give (a Second Chance)

Jun 22, 2016 12:08 am
So often I am told about infidelities, hurts and disappointments between couples and then asked whether the offenders should be given another chance. I think the question is often asked because the offender has felt some remorse for the misdeed and they, both in the couple, are hoping that this is enough to get them […]
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Seven Rules for Effective Problem Solving

Jun 03, 2016 12:09 am
  I’m often asked why when a couple starts a conversation about something that is really important to them it often just ends in another fight. Improving your skills in this area will help your relationship mature in a healthy way keeping it strong and happy. For a couple to reach decisions without unnecessary battles […]
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Are You Thinking of Leaving? Consider These Seven Things

May 25, 2016 12:04 am
Being the one to decide whether or not to leave a relationship can be just as hard as the one being left, and for some even more so. The one being left really has no say in the matter. The one making the decision to leave is the one taking absolute responsibility for what will […]
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Love Lies & Games

07/07/2016

 

The Traffic Light for Change

May 11, 2016 10:08 am

In all relationships there is only one kind of response to your partner that is acceptable. If the couple are well tuned to themselves and each other this could be happening from the beginning though for many this is a growth thing and doesn’t develop until much later as you come to know each other…

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Getting What You Want from Your Partner

Apr 30, 2016 10:25 am

Pavlov’s Dogs and Skinner’s Theory of Conditioning Ivan Pavlov, a Russian Physiologist, and BF Skinner, a US Psychologist, are most well known for their experiments with behaviour in the early 1900s. You might recall hearing about Pavlov’s behaviour modification experiments with dogs and pairing feeding them meat with a ringing bell. Naturally the dog would…

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How to Be Assertive

Mar 23, 2016 11:14 am

When in relationship, as in life, our thoughts, feelings and behaviours become habits. Getting what you want could thereby follow those old well-worn habits, sometimes successfully and sometimes not. If not, you could use this to inspire and even change the way you express your thoughts and feelings. You can become more assertive by following…

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Responding Assertively to Game Playing

Mar 11, 2016 04:39 am

I will illustrate the topic with an example from the story of “Lyn” and “James”. At one time Lyn decides to take her children on vacation with a girlfriend and her children for a few days. But when Lyn tells James of the plan, he is not OK with it. When she asks why, he…

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What Makes Me The Way I Am?

 
What Makes Me So Different From You?
 
Have you ever spoken with your family and discovered that when talking about how life was for you as a child it’s like you grew up in two different families? …
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Quizzes & Questionnaires

The “Chemistry” Test

Here’s a test to measure how well your sexual relationship is working.
 

Answer the following questions about what’s true or false for you and your partner.

Click here to start the quiz.
 

What’s Your Favorite Position?

To discover your favorite place in the games you play with your partner, try this quick quiz.
 

Check off the responses that feel most like you. The position that has the highest number of checks in the “frequently” column is the one from which you are most likely to play your games.

Click here to start the quiz.
 

Other Quizzes & Questionnaires

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June 2016 Newsletter

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June 2016 Newsletter

What’s on at Northern Beaches Counselling & Mediation

A Couple’s Journey

06/01/2016

The Love Drug

May 25, 2016 10:05 am

We all know when we are “in love” that our common sense seems to fail us as all we think about is the subject of our love and the delight there will be next time we meet. Even just thinking about them can result in that flurry in our stomachs as if they were with […]

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Relationship Building (Part II)

May 18, 2016 10:08 am

In my last article I spoke about Compatibility, Expectations, Personalities and Family of Origin and how an understanding of how these impact on you can lead to happier relationships. Let’s now look at some other components of relationship, the understanding of which can enhance your relationship even further. Communication in the Relationship I often have […]

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Relationship Building (Part One)

May 11, 2016 10:06 am

An email I received recently asked me to comment on each of the headings below so here goes. In this article I’ll address the headings of Compatibility, Expectations and Personalities and Families of Origin. Look out then for Part Two in which I address several more topics. What I recognised in each of the headings […]

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The Endurance of Love

May 04, 2016 10:08 am

This email came across my desk recently: “The man I dated for more than five years came back to me for marriage after 12 years we broke up. He lost his first wife while we were dating though circumstances denied us of getting married then. Within the 12 years we broken up he had a […]

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Relationship Remedy

06/01/2016

Are You Thinking of Leaving? Consider These Seven Things

May 25, 2016 12:04 am
Being the one to decide whether or not to leave a relationship can be just as hard as the one being left, and for some even more so. The one being left really has no say in the matter. The one making the decision to leave is the one taking absolute responsibility for what will […]
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Keeping the Fun in Relationships Alive

May 18, 2016 12:02 am
There are some statistics from research that show that children laugh at least two hundred times a day. How this is defined could be open to interpretation but from my recall of the data this could be anything from a smile to a giggle to a good old belly laugh. And if my own eleven […]
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The Marriage Is …

May 11, 2016 12:01 am
What Is Marriage? I loved receiving this question as it’s something that we may expect that we all understand but in truth maybe we actually don’t. So I started my research into answering this question by scrambling to the Macquarie Dictionary which defines marriage as “the legal union of a man and a woman for […]
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True Love, Lies and Deceit

May 04, 2016 12:20 am
Is it possible for someone to truly love you and hurt you over and over with lies and deceit? What a great question this is to get me going for the week The short answer is this:  NO! Someone cannot truly love you and hurt you over and over with lies and deceit. But it […]
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Love Lies & Games

06/01/2016

The Traffic Light for Change

May 11, 2016 10:08 am

In all relationships there is only one kind of response to your partner that is acceptable. If the couple are well tuned to themselves and each other this could be happening from the beginning though for many this is a growth thing and doesn’t develop until much later as you come to know each other…

The post The Traffic Light for Change appeared first on Love Lies & Games.

 

Getting What You Want from Your Partner

Apr 30, 2016 10:25 am

Pavlov’s Dogs and Skinner’s Theory of Conditioning Ivan Pavlov, a Russian Physiologist, and BF Skinner, a US Psychologist, are most well known for their experiments with behaviour in the early 1900s. You might recall hearing about Pavlov’s behaviour modification experiments with dogs and pairing feeding them meat with a ringing bell. Naturally the dog would…

The post Getting What You Want from Your Partner appeared first on Love Lies & Games.

 

How to Be Assertive

Mar 23, 2016 11:14 am

When in relationship, as in life, our thoughts, feelings and behaviours become habits. Getting what you want could thereby follow those old well-worn habits, sometimes successfully and sometimes not. If not, you could use this to inspire and even change the way you express your thoughts and feelings. You can become more assertive by following…

The post How to Be Assertive appeared first on Love Lies & Games.

 

Responding Assertively to Game Playing

Mar 11, 2016 04:39 am

I will illustrate the topic with an example from the story of “Lyn” and “James”. At one time Lyn decides to take her children on vacation with a girlfriend and her children for a few days. But when Lyn tells James of the plan, he is not OK with it. When she asks why, he…

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What Makes Me The Way I Am?

What Makes Me So Different From You?
Have you ever spoken with your family and discovered that when talking about how life was for you as a child it’s like you grew up in two different families? …
Click here to learn more.

Quizzes & Questionnaires

The “Chemistry” Test

Here’s a test to measure how well your sexual relationship is working.

Answer the following questions about what’s true or false for you and your partner.

Click here to start the quiz.

What’s Your Favorite Position?

To discover your favorite place in the games you play with your partner, try this quick quiz.

Check off the responses that feel most like you. The position that has the highest number of checks in the “frequently” column is the one from which you are most likely to play your games.

Click here to start the quiz.

Other Quizzes & Questionnaires

Click here to find out more.

 

May 2016 Newsletter

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May 2016 Newsletter

What’s on at Northern Beaches Counselling & Mediation

A Couple’s Journey

05/01/2016

He Has Never Said I Love You

Apr 20, 2016 10:08 am

He Has Never Said I Love You “I’ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend for two and a half months. We are engaged to be married early next year however I’ve some doubts about him. This is because everybody thinks he loves me except for myself. He has never said I love you throughout this […]

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What Is the First Step When Planning to Get Married?

Mar 17, 2016 11:01 am

So you think you have met your knight in shining armour or your fairy princess and you are thinking about taking the relationship to the next step. Maybe this is in contemplating living together or maybe even to become married. A question I was asked recently had to do with understanding what are the essentials […]

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What’s The Good Of Marrying?

Mar 03, 2016 03:18 am

This week I received an email with a number of questions about the good of getting married. Here are my answers as they were asked in the email. What are the procedures involved in getting married? I guess the starting point to getting married is to get the permission of the intended first. If that […]

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Have You Somehow Lost Sight of What Creates a Successful Marriage? Let Love Show You the Way

Feb 17, 2016 11:03 am

In this article I would like to ask you a question. Have we somehow lost sight of what creates a successful marriage? It seems from my numerous emails from you that there is so much hurt and distrust in relationships, that people are attempting to make lifelong decisions about entering into relationships, with their head […]

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Relationship Remedy

05/01/2016

Ten Reasons Why People Cheat and What to Do About It

Apr 20, 2016 12:00 am
Betrayed By A Fiancé/Fiancée? I receive many emails asking about the meaning of affairs and what to do when you catch someone out. This question is one that comes up regularly both in my rooms as well as via email. In this post I will try and put my thoughts down about what I understand […]
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If You Were Someone Else, Would You Marry You?

Apr 06, 2016 12:30 am
I started this article by considering a question sent to me by a client, and echoed by many others, who wanted to know what was reasonable to expect from a partner in marriage. As I was scouring other emails to see what related questions there were on this topic I came upon this pearl I […]
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When the Time Is Right to Marry?

Mar 23, 2016 12:16 am
When I was young, many years ago now, the dream of most young women was to finish school acquire some training of some sort and get a job. In those days it was somewhat limited to secretarial, shop assistant, teaching, air hostessing, or nursing. Following that was the challenge of finding someone “really nice”, getting […]
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Is It Ok to Lie in a Relationship?

Mar 09, 2016 05:50 am
You wake up in the morning and look across to the person you say you care for more than any one in the world. What do you really think about this person? Does he/she immediately fill you with love and adoration or are you thinking terrible or maybe even contemptuous thoughts about that person. You […]
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Love Lies & Games

05/01/2016

Getting What You Want from Your Partner

Apr 30, 2016 10:25 am

Pavlov’s Dogs and Skinner’s Theory of Conditioning Ivan Pavlov, a Russian Physiologist, and BF Skinner, a US Psychologist, are most well known for their experiments with behaviour in the early 1900s. You might recall hearing about Pavlov’s behaviour modification experiments with dogs and pairing feeding them meat with a ringing bell. Naturally the dog would…

The post Getting What You Want from Your Partner appeared first on Love Lies & Games.

 

How to Be Assertive

Mar 23, 2016 11:14 am

When in relationship, as in life, our thoughts, feelings and behaviours become habits. Getting what you want could thereby follow those old well-worn habits, sometimes successfully and sometimes not. If not, you could use this to inspire and even change the way you express your thoughts and feelings. You can become more assertive by following…

The post How to Be Assertive appeared first on Love Lies & Games.

 

Responding Assertively to Game Playing

Mar 11, 2016 04:39 am

I will illustrate the topic with an example from the story of “Lyn” and “James”. At one time Lyn decides to take her children on vacation with a girlfriend and her children for a few days. But when Lyn tells James of the plan, he is not OK with it. When she asks why, he…

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Five Ways to Respond to Game Playing

Feb 18, 2016 11:07 am

When you get that feeling in the pit of your stomach that something is about to explode then it might be an indicator that you are being invited into a game. It might be something that someone else says or may be conveyed by a gesture, a look on their faces, by touch, or even…

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Do Opposites Make The Best Relationships?

In this meetup I thought we’d do something different so when you arrive you’ll be given a Personality Test to complete…
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Quizzes & Questionnaires

The “Chemistry” Test

Here’s a test to measure how well your sexual relationship is working.

Answer the following questions about what’s true or false for you and your partner.

Click here to start the quiz.

What’s Your Favorite Position?

To discover your favorite place in the games you play with your partner, try this quick quiz.

Check off the responses that feel most like you. The position that has the highest number of checks in the “frequently” column is the one from which you are most likely to play your games.

Click here to start the quiz.

Other Quizzes & Questionnaires

Click here to find out more.

March 2016 Newsletter

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What’s on at Northern Beaches Counselling & Mediation

A Couple’s Journey

03/01/2016

Have You Somehow Lost Sight of What Creates a Successful Marriage? Let Love Show You the Way

Feb 17, 2016 11:03 am
In this article I would like to ask you a question. Have we somehow lost sight of what creates a successful marriage? It seems from my numerous emails from you that there is so much hurt and distrust in relationships, that people are attempting to make lifelong decisions about entering into relationships, with their head […]The post Have You Somehow Lost Sight of What Creates a Successful Marriage? Let Love Show You the Way appeared first on A Couple’s Journey.

Do You Really Know Who Your Partner Is?

Feb 10, 2016 11:03 am
How often have you gotten to a place in your life with someone you think you know, as well as anyone can, just to find that they continue to surprise you? The surprise might be a pleasant one such as learning about something really amazing they have done in their lives that you had no […]The post Do You Really Know Who Your Partner Is? appeared first on A Couple’s Journey.

What Happens With the Love at First Sight?

Feb 03, 2016 11:07 am
The million dollar question here is this; is it the similarities that sparks the initial interest in another as a potential love interest or is it the differences that ignite it? Here’s possibly a familiar scenario Have you ever had the experience, like I did just yesterday, where you meet someone for the first time […]The post What Happens With the Love at First Sight? appeared first on A Couple’s Journey.

No Mistakes – Just Lessons to Be Learned

Jan 27, 2016 11:08 am
I often receive questions from my clients who are feeling uncertain about their futures even going so far as to say they might actually hesitate getting into a relationship for fear of it not working out. Firstly let me say that this is a normal response to any big decision you might make whether it […]The post No Mistakes – Just Lessons to Be Learned appeared first on A Couple’s Journey.

Relationship Remedy

03/01/2016

10 Absolute Must-Do Secrets to a Happy Marriage

Feb 17, 2016 10:00 am
While love is very important in a marriage sometimes it just isn’t enough. Just like any other relationship you have to put some effort in to make your marriage successful. So to help you on your way, here are: 10 Absolute Must-Do Secrets to Make Your Marriage a Happy Marriage Be open and honest in […]
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Forgiving and Forgetting – How to Truly Forgive and Then Truly Forget

Feb 10, 2016 04:03 am
It constantly amazes me how some people can remember the smallest details of everything that happened around a particular event while others don’t remember clearly what happened yesterday let alone last week, last month or last year. Actually these attributes clearly describe the difference between my life partner and me. My partner can recall events […]
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Reasons Why Women Cheat

Feb 03, 2016 12:05 am
Recently I was surprised to hear news of increasing number of websites promoting affairs. So it maybe a bit of a surprise to hear that men are not the only ones who cheat on their partners.  It is becoming more and more common for women to be guilty of cheating. And while years ago […]
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Love at First Sight – Reality or Just a Fantasy?

Jan 28, 2016 03:55 am
You never get a second chance at making a great first impression. Research has shown us that you make a decision within the first 10 seconds of meeting someone about whether you like them, or not, and about whether you want to pursue a relationship with them or really can’t be bothered at all. […]
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Love Lies & Games

03/01/2016

Five Ways to Respond to Game Playing

Feb 18, 2016 11:07 am
When you get that feeling in the pit of your stomach that something is about to explode then it might be an indicator that you are being invited into a game. It might be something that someone else says or may be conveyed by a gesture, a look on their faces, by touch, or even […]The post Five Ways to Respond to Game Playing appeared first on Love Lies & Games.

Detecting Games in the Relationship

Feb 13, 2016 02:57 am
The Story of Lyn and James “Lyn” and “James” have been married for ten years and have three children. When they first met, Lyn had just left school. James was fifteen years older and had already been in the workforce for some time. At the time they met Lyn still lived at home, while James […]The post Detecting Games in the Relationship appeared first on Love Lies & Games.

Game Playing and the Winner’s Triangle

Feb 01, 2016 06:00 pm
Many people who have played the Survivor’s Triangle games have realized that it usually doesn’t lead to a good outcome. Then comes the need of a positive outcome and you have to figure out how to make it happen. Approaching the task logically, if you want a positive outcome to a situation you need to […]The post Game Playing and the Winner’s Triangle appeared first on Love Lies & Games.

Some More Facts about Game Playing

Jan 26, 2016 04:34 am
Here are some little known facts about the games we play with our partners in relationship: Games are not played only between people in a romantic relationship. They can also be played between family members, between work colleagues, between friends and even between “teams” of people. You need two to tango. All players have […]The post Some More Facts about Game Playing appeared first on Love Lies & Games.

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Have You a Question About Dating That You Really Want Answered?

Here is your chance. Come to this free Seminar titled: “Ask The Relationship Guru” and discover the answers to your most pressing questions about finding other singles, asking for a first date and successfully getting to the second.
Click here to learn more.

Are You Relationship Prepared?

This Workshop will address some of the things you should know before you say: “I will go out with you!”

In just one day you will learn 3 simple strategies you can implement immediately so you make the best decisions when looking for a relationship…

Click here to learn more.

Quizzes & Questionnaires

The “Chemistry” Test

Here’s a test to measure how well your sexual relationship is working.

Answer the following questions about what’s true or false for you and your partner.

Click here to start the quiz.

What’s Your Favorite Position?

To discover your favorite place in the games you play with your partner, try this quick quiz.

Check off the responses that feel most like you. The position that has the highest number of checks in the “frequently” column is the one from which you are most likely to play your games.

Click here to start the quiz.

Other Quizzes & Questionnaires

Click here to find out more.

February 2016 Newsletter

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What’s on at Northern Beaches Counselling & Mediation

A Couple’s Journey

02/01/2016

No Mistakes – Just Lessons to Be Learned

Jan 27, 2016 11:08 am
I often receive questions from my clients who are feeling uncertain about their futures even going so far as to say they might actually hesitate getting into a relationship for fear of it not working out. Firstly let me say that this is a normal response to any big decision you might make whether it […]The post No Mistakes – Just Lessons to Be Learnedappeared first on A Couple’s Journey.

How to Create a Happy Marriage

Jan 20, 2016 11:01 am
Some of the issues that disrupt a relationship can include a history of stereotyping or mistrust, blaming the other person for the difficulties that will and do arise, excluding or discounting the other’s feelings when focusing on a task, having no clear and defined objectives as well as where roles and expectations of each person […]The post How to Create a Happy Marriage appeared first on A Couple’s Journey.

Who Wants Better Sex?

Jan 13, 2016 11:02 am
Research has shown that the biggest issue that couples have to deal with in their relationship is …. Finance! But guess what? The next biggest one is their sex life. When couples come into counselling the first session is very much about finding out about their relationship history. I ask them questions about how they […]The post Who Wants Better Sex? appeared first on A Couple’s Journey.

How to Catch a Cheating Partner?

Jan 06, 2016 11:06 am
Couples often come to a stage in their relationship where things no longer go so smoothly and they start asking questions about their future. This is a normal stage of development for all relationships. And rather than shying away from it you would do better to take a close look at where you are in […]The post How to Catch a Cheating Partner? appeared first on A Couple’s Journey.

Relationship Remedy

02/01/2016

Love at First Sight – Reality or Just a Fantasy?

Jan 28, 2016 03:55 am
You never get a second chance at making a great first impression. Research has shown us that you make a decision within the first 10 seconds of meeting someone about whether you like them, or not, and about whether you want to pursue a relationship with them or really can’t be bothered at all. […]
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When Can We Have Sex Again? – Rediscovering Sex After Pregnancy

Jan 20, 2016 05:07 am
A common question I’m asked after a couple has just had a child is: “When can we have sex again?” The short answer is: “When it feels right”. Sadly it is most often he who is ready before she is so when it doesn’t happen as he expects then this can lead to feelings of […]
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Is Your Partner Your Best-Friend?

Jan 13, 2016 08:59 am
How important is it in marriage that your partner is also your best friend? For me the most important part of being married is that you do consider your partner to also be your best friend: There for you in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health. And who but a […]
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Why Do Some People Shy Away From Love?

Jan 06, 2016 12:05 am
A question I received just recently was from a young man who said that he falls in love at the drop of a hat, or maybe that should read heart, and then just as quickly feels an equally strong need to withdraw from the relationship when it gets to the part that she is asking […]
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Love Lies & Games

02/01/2016

Some More Facts about Game Playing

Jan 26, 2016 04:34 am
Here are some little known facts about the games we play with our partners in relationship: Games are not played only between people in a romantic relationship. They can also be played between family members, between work colleagues, between friends and even between “teams” of people. You need two to tango. All players have […]The post Some More Facts about Game Playingappeared first on Love Lies & Games.

Insignificant Games and Serious Games

Jan 14, 2016 10:43 pm
We need to spice up our life every now and then and, as my husband and I so often do, we play teasing games with each other. But when do games that are played in jest become something more serious game with a negative consequence for the relationship? And how do we tell them apart? […]The post Insignificant Games and Serious Gamesappeared first on Love Lies & Games.

Levels of Consciousness

Jan 06, 2016 11:08 am
Your memory stores all kinds of information from your life’s experiences. We make sense of those events, attach them to other events as we deem appropriate and store them, no matter how trivial they might seem, somewhere for future reference as needed. You might surprise yourself by how much trivia you seem to have stored […]The post Levels of Consciousness appeared first onLove Lies & Games.

Am I OK? Are You OK?

Dec 23, 2015 11:03 am
What does it really mean to be “OK”? Is there a formula that we need to follow to in order to be okay? When are we okay? Is it when we feel loved and respected, or when we feel someone needs us and that make us feel important? Is happiness something to fight for or […]The post Am I OK? Are You OK? appeared first onLove Lies & Games.

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Upcoming Events

Have You a Question About Relationships That You Really Want Answered?

Here is your chance. Come to this Seminar titled: “Ask the Relationship Guru” and discover the answers to your most pressing questions about relationships.
Click here to learn more.

Are You Relationship Prepared?

This Workshop will address some of the things you should know before you say: “I will go out with you!”

In just one day you will learn 3 simple strategies you can implement immediately so you make the best decisions when looking for a relationship…

Click here to learn more.

Quizzes & Questionnaires

The “Chemistry” Test

Here’s a test to measure how well your sexual relationship is working.

Answer the following questions about what’s true or false for you and your partner.

Click here to start the quiz.

What’s Your Favorite Position?

To discover your favorite place in the games you play with your partner, try this quick quiz.

Check off the responses that feel most like you. The position that has the highest number of checks in the “frequently” column is the one from which you are most likely to play your games.

Click here to start the quiz.

Other Quizzes & Questionnaires

Click here to find out more.

December 2015 Newsletter

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A Couple’s Journey

 

The Secret of a Good Marriage

Nov 25, 2015 11:01 am

A good marriage is the ultimate dream of every person in relationship. From the moment the decision to marry has been made right through the preparation of the wedding ceremony; the couple can’t help but to create their own fantasy about a good marriage. Unfortunately, for some it only ever is a fantasy. The reality […]

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Love versus Infatuation

Nov 18, 2015 11:02 am

When we first meet someone we can sometimes confuse a very strong feeling of attraction towards them, one that we might think is love, for what is actually infatuation. We might then notice our attraction towards that person decreasing and we realize that if we act on this feeling too quickly we may have made […]

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I Am Not In Love – Can I Still Be Happy In a Relationship?

Nov 11, 2015 11:16 am

I think this question needs some qualifiers first about love and what is love as well as about relationship and what is relationship. In this context I will use love to mean any deep and meaningful caring of one person toward another. So I can truly love my partner but I can also equally love […]

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What Is God’s Will for Me?

Nov 04, 2015 11:06 am

From my reader:   Thank you for this opportunity. I hope your site can help to educate many in the area of marriage, so that we can have a community of very happy people-to the glory of God. The following are the common burning questions: – For believers, they want to know if the person […]

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Relationship Remedy

 

Jealousy – the Green-eyed Monster

Nov 25, 2015 12:08 am

Sometimes couples come into me with an issue around jealousy, otherwise known as the “Green-eyed Monster”. When you feel jealous of someone, the slightest gesture of deception seems to be the greatest betrayal of the world. You cannot see them talking and socializing with anyone, you just want them to pay attention to you and […]
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How to Find Unconditional Love in Your Relationships?

Nov 18, 2015 12:00 am

I’ve already addressed in another article what is unconditional love but let’s review. Put simply, and as the words would imply, unconditional love is love that is given without the expectation of anything in return. Conditional love, on the other hand, is the love that is given in response to love received and generally has […]
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Does Unconditional Love Exist?

Nov 11, 2015 12:06 am

There’s a saying I’ve heard, and possibly even said myself, which suggests that the only love that is unconditional is the love of a mother for her newborn baby. The adage goes on to say that maybe this only lasts twenty-four hours or until your first sleepless night. To answer this question let’s firstly look […]
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Is Marriage Going Out Of Style?

Nov 04, 2015 12:06 am

You may already know that I have four children, all adults, who are starting to look at entering into long term relationships now that their childhood has passed them by […]

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Love Lies & Games

 

Common Reasons for the Games People Play

Nov 25, 2015 11:02 am

In the previous article I talked about a very delicate and manipulative game we grown-ups play sometimes. The game is ‘Why Don’t You…?’ and ‘Yes, but…’ Some people have played so much; they don’t even realize that they are playing it. Why though? Common reasons for the games people play In the previous article I […]

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An Example of the Games People Play

Nov 20, 2015 01:50 am

Grown-ups mind games: ‘Why don’t you..?’ and ‘Yes, but…’ When we were children, we all used to play games, most of them funny and harmless. The older we got the more intensive the games became. And because a child’s mind is so easily shaped the games he observes, and is often a party to, during […]

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The Purpose of the Games People Play

Nov 11, 2015 10:35 am

People often ask me – why are relationships so complicated? The short answer is – because there are two in the game. The games people play are a complicated mix of roles that are lived out unconsciously and driven by the equally unconscious need to stand by them on a daily basis. In short these […]

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The Games People Play

Nov 05, 2015 12:53 am

One thing is certain – human relationships are a complicated maze that has no entry or exit signs. It’s as if we start a relationship with our eyes closed, groping our way to the entrance of the maze but without a clear vision. We have no map or knowledge of how long it will take […]

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November 2015 Newsletter

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A Couple’s Journey

 

How Come the Sex Is Great but We Don’t Know How to Talk to Each Other?

Oct 28, 2015

Good Sex and good communication are possibly two of the most critical components in determining whether a marriage or a relationship is a happy one. And maybe, along with love, is what makes a relationship strong enough to make the distance. If your relationship lacks any of these three components, you definitely need to do […]

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Relationships When There Is a Disability

Oct 21, 2015

An email I received through the last week was from someone who was asking about entering into a relationship with a person disabled, in this case, by childhood polio. There are many relationships the world over where one or both parties to the couple have a disability of some sort. This could be physical, such […]

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Get Him Back in Three Simple Steps

Oct 16, 2015

Friends and the Media are full of ideas about how to get your boyfriend back after he has dumped you. Here is a sample of some of the things that I have heard and read: “Getting your ex back is not difficult. You just have to be a bit subtle and think from the point […]

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What Happened To The Magic In Your Relationship?

Oct 12, 2015

Click on the flyer to see it in full size. If you would like to attend the seminar please ring 02 99978518 or email admin@northernbeachescounselling.com.au with the words: “Yes I would like to attend the seminar”. Some excerpts from my workshops.

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Equality in the Relationship

Oct 10, 2015

Can There Really Be Equality in the Relationship? Before I can answer this question I think I need to define the terms ‘equality’ and ‘relationship’. The term relationship, by its very nature, implies a connection between two individuals with a shared benefit for both parties. While this might imply equality it may or may not actually […]

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Relationship Remedy

 

I’m Pregnant and I Don’t Feel I Love Him Anymore

October 28, 2015

There’s another question that goes often comes with this one and that is about the satisfaction many women feel in having given birth. It’s like the child now fulfills all her love and sexual needs some even saying that the very act of holding a child in their arms and/or breast-feeding the child gives them immense sexual pleasure so much so that some women even report the experience of an orgasm every time they feed their child…

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Are You Addicted To Love?

October 21, 2015

Marriage is one of the biggest decisions you will ever make in your life and maybe only second to becoming a parent. Consequently it is crucial that it is a decision made with considerable thought and care to ensure that, as much as possible, it will create a lasting relationship. Having said that I have never come across anyone who made a decision to marry with the intent of divorcing and yet, as we know, more than 40% of first marriages do end in divorce and the statistics are even higher for second and subsequent marriages – 60%++…

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He says he wants me but will not commit

October 17, 2015

To know in your mind, and feel in your heart, that you are in a committed relationship and that whatever happens, your partner will still be there for you, brings a sense of security to those in the relationship that love alone cannot provide. One thing I often ask a couple when beginning work with them is whether they are committed to each other as well as to the relationship. The answer to this question is even more important than the answer to the question – “Do you love your partner?” as the two may actually not be mutually inclusive…

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Indicators That Your Relationship Is In Deep Trouble

October 11, 2015

Why Do My Parents Hate Each Other So Much? I was speaking to a young boy this week, let’s call him Mat (not his real name), who asked me a question about his divorcing parents – “Why do my parents hate each other so much?” I found myself searching for an answer and finally said: “I don’t believe your parents really ‘hate’ each other but maybe are just so angry with each other, and with the situation they are in, that it looks like they really hate each other…

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Love, Lies and Games

 

Effective Communication in Action

October 18, 2015

When you look at the solution to a problem from a different perspective then everything gets easier. Child’s play really. If you imagine two adults who are playing tic-tac-toe and are competing for the win you are going to see the big picture as if from a bird’s eye view. Let’s accept for a moment that the game is a dispute. I put an “x”, my partner puts an “o” and we continue like this one after another. The tension is getting stronger. Who is going to win? At some point my partner puts his “o” and draws a smile. I smile back, I accept the dispute from its amusing angle and I understand that my partner’s intentions towards me are positive. I quickly grasp the wink. A game or a dispute, call it whatever you want…

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Relationship Rules for Effective Communication (Part 2)

October 11, 2015

Body language, power of words, facial expression, position of the hands, waving of the hair – what do all of these mean to you when transferred into everyday communication? Is the reading of every gesture part of effective communication between people? Is it non-verbal language? I am asking myself, isn’t this the key to Relationship Rules for Effective Communication?;Of course, my experience as well as all of the big books written on this topic prove that each gesture or movement of our bodies expresses our inner condition in a moment of conversation, in a moment of a dispute, or even in a moment when we say “I love you” to our partner. In order to be a good converser and listener at the same time you need to acquire a few simple skills and mostly you have to learn to read the code o…

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