A Couple’s Journey
The Secret to Winning Her Back
Dec 30, 2015
Here’s the story of Tom and Pamela. They met;fell in love, and everything seemed so right. To him that is. For her it was far from right. Then one day, out of the blue, she tells you she’s “had enough” and is gone, or worse still, she asks you to pack your bags and […]
How to Get Through Christmas Day
Dec 23, 2015
Stressful events, like Christmas, are always a great test for relationships. Most often however these events seem to just bring out the worst in people as they attempt to manage all that there is to do to bring families together. The wish is always that these times are remembered for the good things and not […]
How to Decide With Whom to Spend Your Life?
Dec 16, 2015
One of the most difficult things in life is to make a choice when both options seem to be equally superior. No matter what we need to make a choice on, after selecting one we can still inevitably question our decision and sometimes come to believe that we might have made the wrong one. This […]
What Is Most Important – Sex, Love, or Communication?
Dec 09, 2015
You might have read hundreds of articles that say that communication is very important for a relationship to grow. You might have heard millions of people saying that a relationship can’t exist without love. And some people understand sex as the most essential ingredient of a healthy marriage. Actually, love sex and communication are all […]
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Love, Lies and Games
Am I OK? Are You OK?
December 23, 2015
What does it really mean to be “OK”? Is there a formula that we need to follow to in order to be okay? When are we okay? Is it when we feel loved and respected, or when we feel someone needs us and that make us feel important? Is happiness something to fight for or it is something that comes to us when we’re done the battle with ourselves?
To sum it up – each of us is either predominantly OK with life and how it’s progressing, or not. I think you might be able to guess which is better. Victors live out a very clear “I’m OK and you’re OK” life script, while both Visitors and Victims live out a predominantly “I’m not OK, you’re not OK” life script.
Let’s look at this from the perspective of the Survivor’s Triangle.
Aggressors are the bullies of…
How Survivors Play Out Their Life Games on the Game Triangle
December 17, 2015
All Psychological Games get played from one of three positions. These can be seen in action on the Survivor’s Triangle.
I call it the “Survivor’s Triangle,” because, while games are destructive, you play them in response to whatever you were taught, or decided, as a child. It was the way you learned to survive in your family and in society.
As well when you are a child you ‘by default’ need to be taken care of, to be helped and pampered because you are a tiny and weak creature. You simply need to survive as a child biologically and later on emotionally so you naturally do whatever you need to ensure that happens.
Survival or Imprisonment?
Each of the triangle’s corners represents one of the three stances that someone might take in a game…
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Will I Be Able To Love Again?
December 30, 2015
This is the question that comes up for us when we have lost love. This might be as a consequence of our partner saying they no longer wish to be with us or if they have betrayed us in some way such as in having an affair.;It’s nothing short of absolutely miserable when you are deceived by the one you put all your love in, all your faith and trust in.;So the real question here might be: Do you think that people can love again after they have been left or betrayed? The answer is absolutely yes !;Firstly that one person who betrayed you was not the last human being on earth. There are plenty more. And there are those who are worthy of your love and who will truly love you in return. And sometimes you just have to make a decision to move on…
Why Do We Lie?
December 23, 2015
There’s a joke told about politicians that goes like this: “How do you know when a politician is lying?” The answer: “When his lips are moving!”;The truth is we all tell lies!;The more modest ones are called “white lies”, they are generally harmless and don’t upset people too greatly if discovered. Such lies tend to be said to save someone’s feelings, like when we compliment someone about how they look, or to save our own, such as when we make up reasons for my not being able to do something when we really don’t want to do it anyway.;Lies can be by what is said as well as by what is not said.;Men and women tell different kinds of lies. Men most often tell lies to protect themselves. They may lie to you about the way you look, they may say that you look good no matter what you wear. They just do not want to break your heart, they want you to be happy. Such lies are very sweet, in fact, if your man tells you such lies, then you should be very happy…
When the Fighting Becomes Too Much
December 16, 2015
I received this very sad letter not so long ago so am making it the focus of this blog article.
“Why is it that I and my girlfriend quarrel/argue every week for she says she doesn’t trust me and tells me every time that she doesn’t want to marry me?
I love her so much and want her be my wife. I have thought of things that she thinks that creates the argument, but when i start to work on those things it works a little while but fails and never lasts.
I am standing on two conflicting ideas. Marry her or start over another relationship.
What she says when she gets angry out of nothing gets me crazy. Even now, we are not giving phone calls to each other.
When She/He Just Like To Complain
December 09, 2015
It seems like some people just like to complain. No matter what you do, you cannot make them happy. From trivial mistakes to great blunders, they do not let go of a single opportunity to tell you that you’ve done something wrong.
These types of behaviour are really just displays of low self-esteem. These may even be the victims of the world trying just trying to help themselves feel better.
What If He Hasn’t Said “I Love You!”?
December 02, 2015
The phrase “I love you!” is a very important one for couples to hear from each other and especially so when the relationship is moving from a casual acquaintance to a more permanent one. It is like the official announcement that he, or she, really is in love with you and through these words is making a commitment for a long-term relationship.
But sometimes, and maybe particularly men, can take a long time to say “I love you!”. This can be for a variety of reasons