November 2016 Newsletter

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A Couple’s Journey


Relationship Stages (Part Six)

Oct 26, 2016 11:11 am

Relationship Stage Five The Ultimate goal for every relationship is ‘Happily Ever After’. When you are at the definitive stage of relationships you just know in your very heart that that is exactly where you are. This stage is about being independent of and inter-dependent with your partner all at the same time. It is […]

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Relationship Stages (Part Five)

Oct 19, 2016 11:06 am

Relationship Stage 4: Reconnection Stage four of your relationship is about ‘Reconnection’, where the patterns of intimacy swing backwards and forwards as you strengthen your personal identity and learn to maintain your own point of view without hostility. You think more productively about your differences and disagreements instead of having automatic negative reactions. This stage […]

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Relationship Stages (Part Four)

Oct 12, 2016 11:02 am

Stage 3: Moving from “We” Back To “Me” The third stage of relationships is called ‘Exploration’, as you move from the all encompassing “We” back to an individual “I”. When you are able to resist the pressure to return to a symbiotic state you begin to re-establish your own identity and self-esteem that, for a […]

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Relationship Stages (Part Three)

Oct 05, 2016 11:02 am

Stage 2: Rediscovering our Differences – The Differences that makes the Difference The second stage of Relationship that normal healthy couples pass through is the ‘Stage of Differentiation’ and managing the unease that comes with discovering that, despite what you thought, there really are differences between you and this deserves to be recognized and celebrated. […]

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Relationship Remedy


Is This About You Or Is It More About Me?

Oct 26, 2016 12:08 am
When your relationship begins to falter, and there will be times it will, you may want to find something or someone to blame. You may even be left wondering if this was something that you did or said or something that they did or said. The answer to these questions is that it is equally […]
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Ending a Relationship (Part One)

Oct 19, 2016 12:01 am
Five Tough Questions to Ask Yourself About Your Relationship In all relationships there comes a time when you will come to ask questions about whether it’s time to end it or not. The hardest question of all to answer is how can you know for sure when your relationship is just not working and it […]
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It’s a Hormone Thing

Oct 12, 2016 12:08 am
Generally men are turned on sexually more easily than women. Men are also turned on more easily by sexual stimuli, including fantasy. And in addition nature also causes a build-up of sexual tension in a healthy male which will seek any means of release. This build-up of sexual tension actually begins again immediately after ejaculation. […]
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The Sex-Stress Barometer

Oct 05, 2016 12:03 am
Many people, and maybe reasonably so, use their sexual relationship as a barometer of what is going on in the rest of their relationship. Consequently if the sex is great then some people conclude, though sometimes incorrectly, that the rest of their relationship must also be great. Similarly some people decide that if the sex […]
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Love Lies & Games


The Traffic Light for Change

May 11, 2016 10:08 am

In all relationships there is only one kind of response to your partner that is acceptable. If the couple are well tuned to themselves and each other this could be happening from the beginning though for many this is a growth thing and doesn’t develop until much later as you come to know each other…

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Getting What You Want from Your Partner

Apr 30, 2016 10:25 am

Pavlov’s Dogs and Skinner’s Theory of Conditioning Ivan Pavlov, a Russian Physiologist, and BF Skinner, a US Psychologist, are most well known for their experiments with behaviour in the early 1900s. You might recall hearing about Pavlov’s behaviour modification experiments with dogs and pairing feeding them meat with a ringing bell. Naturally the dog would…

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How to Be Assertive

Mar 23, 2016 11:14 am

When in relationship, as in life, our thoughts, feelings and behaviours become habits. Getting what you want could thereby follow those old well-worn habits, sometimes successfully and sometimes not. If not, you could use this to inspire and even change the way you express your thoughts and feelings. You can become more assertive by following…

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Responding Assertively to Game Playing

Mar 11, 2016 04:39 am

I will illustrate the topic with an example from the story of “Lyn” and “James”. At one time Lyn decides to take her children on vacation with a girlfriend and her children for a few days. But when Lyn tells James of the plan, he is not OK with it. When she asks why, he…

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Quizzes & Questionnaires

The “Chemistry” Test

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Answer the following questions about what’s true or false for you and your partner.

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What’s Your Favorite Position?

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Check off the responses that feel most like you. The position that has the highest number of checks in the “frequently” column is the one from which you are most likely to play your games.

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