July 2016 Newsletter

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July 2016 Newsletter

What’s on at Northern Beaches Counselling & Mediation


A Couple’s Journey



When the Age Gap In a Relationship Is Too Big?

Jul 02, 2016 10:03 am

When Being Different Ages Is the Difference That Can Make the Difference Recently I was asked about my thoughts on the impact that a difference in age might have on the future success of a relationship. Let me scatter some thoughts here before I answer the question specifically. I have known of marriages that had […]

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Age and Marriage

Jun 22, 2016 10:09 am

An email I received recently went something like this: “I would like to know what you think about the challenges that … age poses to the institution of marriage.” I love this question as I believe age poses a whole set of different issues for couples though none any less surmountable than those presenting to […]

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Why Is My Husband Addicted To Sex With Other Women?

Jun 03, 2016 10:01 am

Some time ago I received an email from a woman questioning her husband’s continuing infidelity despite the fact that they have been married for more than twenty years. The simple question was why he would continue doing this? The answer of course is never quite as simple as the question as there may be a […]

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The Love Drug

May 25, 2016 10:05 am

We all know when we are “in love” that our common sense seems to fail us as all we think about is the subject of our love and the delight there will be next time we meet. Even just thinking about them can result in that flurry in our stomachs as if they were with […]

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Relationship Remedy



What Is Marriage and Why Marry?

Jun 30, 2016 12:02 am
In this article I want to address some questions on what is marriage, why do we marry, and the role of extended families in marriage. Firstly let me define marriage. For me marriage is about two people committing themselves totally to one another. And I’ll add to this my personal opinion that this may refer […]
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To Give or Not to Give (a Second Chance)

Jun 22, 2016 12:08 am
So often I am told about infidelities, hurts and disappointments between couples and then asked whether the offenders should be given another chance. I think the question is often asked because the offender has felt some remorse for the misdeed and they, both in the couple, are hoping that this is enough to get them […]
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Seven Rules for Effective Problem Solving

Jun 03, 2016 12:09 am
  I’m often asked why when a couple starts a conversation about something that is really important to them it often just ends in another fight. Improving your skills in this area will help your relationship mature in a healthy way keeping it strong and happy. For a couple to reach decisions without unnecessary battles […]
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Are You Thinking of Leaving? Consider These Seven Things

May 25, 2016 12:04 am
Being the one to decide whether or not to leave a relationship can be just as hard as the one being left, and for some even more so. The one being left really has no say in the matter. The one making the decision to leave is the one taking absolute responsibility for what will […]
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Love Lies & Games



The Traffic Light for Change

May 11, 2016 10:08 am

In all relationships there is only one kind of response to your partner that is acceptable. If the couple are well tuned to themselves and each other this could be happening from the beginning though for many this is a growth thing and doesn’t develop until much later as you come to know each other…

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Getting What You Want from Your Partner

Apr 30, 2016 10:25 am

Pavlov’s Dogs and Skinner’s Theory of Conditioning Ivan Pavlov, a Russian Physiologist, and BF Skinner, a US Psychologist, are most well known for their experiments with behaviour in the early 1900s. You might recall hearing about Pavlov’s behaviour modification experiments with dogs and pairing feeding them meat with a ringing bell. Naturally the dog would…

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How to Be Assertive

Mar 23, 2016 11:14 am

When in relationship, as in life, our thoughts, feelings and behaviours become habits. Getting what you want could thereby follow those old well-worn habits, sometimes successfully and sometimes not. If not, you could use this to inspire and even change the way you express your thoughts and feelings. You can become more assertive by following…

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Responding Assertively to Game Playing

Mar 11, 2016 04:39 am

I will illustrate the topic with an example from the story of “Lyn” and “James”. At one time Lyn decides to take her children on vacation with a girlfriend and her children for a few days. But when Lyn tells James of the plan, he is not OK with it. When she asks why, he…

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The “Chemistry” Test

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Answer the following questions about what’s true or false for you and your partner.

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What’s Your Favorite Position?

To discover your favorite place in the games you play with your partner, try this quick quiz.

Check off the responses that feel most like you. The position that has the highest number of checks in the “frequently” column is the one from which you are most likely to play your games.

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