September 2016 Newsletter

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September 2016 Newsletter

 

A Couple’s Journey

09/07/2016

 

What Is This Thing Called Chemistry? (Part One)

Sep 06, 2016 07:03 pm

There have been many theories to explain how we come to choose the people that we will go into a relationship with. Some theories focus on our attraction being most often to the people that have qualities or characteristics that we may not feel we have ourselves and unconsciously believing that if we miss them […]

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My Family Rules About Relationships (part three)

Aug 31, 2016 07:05 am

This is part three of the article on how families impact our lives and our relationships. I’ve already talked about how they may even be multi generational. Now I would like to address how we might be able to change these script directives. As your ‘script’, and your rules for relationships, was first presented to […]

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My Family Rules About Relationships (part two)

Aug 10, 2016 10:04 am

In part one of this article I was talking about how families affect the decisions we make about our lives through ‘scripting’.  Let me clarify this further with an example. My father grew up in a very large family during a difficult time in history. He was born into a time in Europe just after […]

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My Family Rules about Relationships (part one)

Aug 03, 2016 09:38 pm

Family and Cultural Scripts When you were born into your family you were presented with your ‘script’ or pre-script-ion for life. Just like an actor on stage works from a script, so do you. Most of us don’t even realize that subconsciously we accept and live out our ‘script’ without any conscious knowledge of what […]

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Relationship Remedy

09/07/2016

 

Common Reasons Why Couples Fight and How to Solve Them

Sep 05, 2016 12:05 am
Whatever stage of relationship you are in there will be some conflict. Disagreements are not only normal but are a necessary part of the development of a healthy relationship. Without them there would be insufficient motivation to want to move on and strive for something better. The reasons couples fight are many and varied but […]
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10 Secrets to Achieving Marital Harmony

Aug 31, 2016 12:01 am
Marital harmony can be achieved in a variety of ways. Sometimes it is the little things that maintain the peace in a relationship and sometimes it is more monumental decisions that can either harm or help the harmony in the household. While agreement is not always possible, it is important for the couple to realize […]
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5 Ways to Put Some Energy into Your Relationship

Aug 10, 2016 12:07 am
Giving your mate gifts for no reason at all is a way to get your relationship back on track.  You may have lavished gifts on your partner early in the relationship but as the relationship progressed you may not have done so as frequently.  Small, meaningful gifts given just to make your partner happy will […]
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Five Gifts Under $10 For Your Partner

Aug 04, 2016 06:14 am
  A homemade coupon book is always a welcomed gift and can certainly be made for under $10.  Create coupons on your computer or by hand for services that you know your loved one will enjoy and include a small gift to go with the theme of the coupon book.  For example the man in […]
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Love Lies & Games

09/07/2016

 

The Traffic Light for Change

May 11, 2016 10:08 am

In all relationships there is only one kind of response to your partner that is acceptable. If the couple are well tuned to themselves and each other this could be happening from the beginning though for many this is a growth thing and doesn’t develop until much later as you come to know each other…

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Getting What You Want from Your Partner

Apr 30, 2016 10:25 am

Pavlov’s Dogs and Skinner’s Theory of Conditioning Ivan Pavlov, a Russian Physiologist, and BF Skinner, a US Psychologist, are most well known for their experiments with behaviour in the early 1900s. You might recall hearing about Pavlov’s behaviour modification experiments with dogs and pairing feeding them meat with a ringing bell. Naturally the dog would…

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How to Be Assertive

Mar 23, 2016 11:14 am

When in relationship, as in life, our thoughts, feelings and behaviours become habits. Getting what you want could thereby follow those old well-worn habits, sometimes successfully and sometimes not. If not, you could use this to inspire and even change the way you express your thoughts and feelings. You can become more assertive by following…

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Responding Assertively to Game Playing

Mar 11, 2016 04:39 am

I will illustrate the topic with an example from the story of “Lyn” and “James”. At one time Lyn decides to take her children on vacation with a girlfriend and her children for a few days. But when Lyn tells James of the plan, he is not OK with it. When she asks why, he…

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